How can adoption be a good choice? Isn’t it unnatural?
Making the choice to place a child for adoption is a courageous decision made with the child’s best interests in mind. Birthparents are making a positive parenting decision. For a family facing infertility or desiring to raise a child, adoption can be a fulfilling answer to a lifelong dream. Adopted children are loved by two families and grow up with that knowledge.
How can I tell my family that I want to give up my baby for adoption?
First of all, you would not be “giving up your baby” for adoption. You are making a loving choice and a very selfless decision about what would be in your child’s best interest. We prefer more positive adoption language like “making an adoption plan” or “placing your baby with an adoptive family.” Second, we can help you navigate the sometimes difficult process of including friends and family in your decision. We can help them understand that you are making the best decision possible for your child’s future. Those who oppose adoption likely don’t understand how it work and many misconceptions about the process. We will support you all along the way, even if it means you decide not to share your decision with your family.
Does it mean that I don’t love my child if I place him for adoption?
Absolutely not! Though motivations for making adoption plans vary, it is never due to a lack of love for the child. The choice of adoption shows a tremendous, selfless love for a child.
Can I choose the adoptive family?
Yes. Many birthparents read letters of introduction or otherwise make their choices known through an adoption agency.
Do I have to choose the adoptive family?
No, birthparents may opt to have the agency select the adoptive family for the child.
How do I know the adoptive family is a good family?
Adoptive families must have State of Nevada, FBI, local criminal clearances, a Child Abuse and Neglect Systems check, five positive references, medical statements, financial statements and many more documents completed which assess their parenting readiness.
Does an agency have to be involved?
In Nevada, all non-relative adoptions must be facilitated by a licensed agency.
What kind of fees and costs will I be responsible for?
Birthparent services are provided at no cost to the birthparents. In fact, we may be able to help you with basic living expenses and costs of medical care if you do not have insurance.
Must the birthfather be involved in the adoption decision?
If the biological father is known and can be located, his rights are generally equal to the birthmother’s. He must be a party to the adoption plan. In situations where a birthfather is unknown or cannot be located, a termination of parental rights will be sought through legal means. All non-relative adoptions must have the parental rights of the birthmother, birthfather and any legal father (birthmother’s husband) relinquished voluntarily or terminated involuntarily through court. The involvement of the birthfather is sometimes difficult for the birthmother; however, the agency social worker will help guide her through this process.
What if I am under age?
A Nevada birthparent is afforded all legal rights and responsibilities, as an adult, in regard to his/her child. Minor birthparents do not need permission from their parents to make an adoption plan or sign legal documents regarding the child. It is optimal to have family support whenever possible.
Are adoptions confidential? What about open adoptions?
YES! All aspects of adoption are private matters for the birth families, adoptive families and children. All information is highly confidential. In open adoptions, the parties involved have chosen to have a direct relationship and may make their own decisions about confidentiality. When a question arises, it is best to remain confidential until the agency facilitating the adoption is able to clarify the situation with all involved parties.
What will I learn about the adoptive parents?
Birthparents have the opportunity to read the adoptive parents’ introductions letters. Generally the information provided by the agency is in a non-identifying manner unless it is an open adoption.
Can I see the baby while at the hospital? How about the adoptive parents?
It is considered healthier for a birthmother to see and hold her baby prior to the adoptive placement; however, it is her choice. Adoptive parents may have an open relationship with the birthparent(s) and may be welcome to visit. Again, it is the birthmother’s choice in accordance with hospital policy.
How do I get the adoption process started?
Call 702-385-3351 and ask to speak to a social worker to schedule an appointment to discuss making an adoption plan.
What if I don’t have transportation?
We can meet expectant parents at their home or a neutral location if transportation is difficult.
Does Catholic Charities have a support group for birthparents?
Yes! We meet the fourth Tuesday of each month at the office. Birthparents and expectant parents are encouraged to attend. It is a safe place to share your thoughts and feelings about the adoption process or ask questions of others who have placed children in the past.
Please call 702-385-3351 or email Adoption Services to learn about your options.